Breaking free from an unhappy relationship is no easy task, and it becomes harder when children finances, or dependence are part of the equation.Evaluating satisfaction accruing these constraints may be ideal, but change can happen at any time in a relationship’s life course.
Cohabitation and marriage both come with substantial relationship constraints, and are more common as people leave college and move further into adulthood. Cycling Is Remarkably Common Evidence drawn from a sample of 323 cohabitating, and 752 married, heterosexual, middle-aged couples revealed that an on-again/off-again history is fairly frequent among adults: 37 percent of cohabiters and 23 percent of married couples reported at one time breaking up and then getting back together with their current partner (Vennum et al., 2014).
If we really want to know the potential for cyclical relationships, we need to look at how well they transition into cohabiting and marital relationships. While some of this cycling occurred when they were dating, 22 percent of cohabiters indicated that they cycled at least once after already deciding to live together.
A Problem Well After College Recent research out of Kansas State University (Vennum, Lindstrom, Monk, & Adams, 2014) offers insight into the effects of relationship cycling beyond the college years—a novel contribution since college students are the focus of most on-again/off-again relationship studies (e.g., Dailey et al., 2009).
Relationship researchers often turn to college samples because of their accessibility and because the instability that characterizes on-again/off-again relationships is not uncommon in that population.
You are still attracted to that person but the don't fill the void in your expectations around a relationship. If you don't become FWB you become a bitter hag who blames the disconnect on an imaginary clinical condition your partner has. I've been a the receiving end of that a few times myself but never again. Oh..thanks for trying to make it personal guywhoisajerk!