Dating a victim of sexual abuse


As such, the adult becomes caught in a cycle of relationships that reinforce the wounded attachments. Permission to publish granted by Valerie Kuykendall-Rogers, MA, LPC-S, therapist in Houston, Texas The preceding article was solely written by the author named above.

It doesn’t matter anymore, he says, so I suck in my breath and nod. I listen, and I do not laugh when my husband needs to secure the perimeter of our home each night. “I’m just another kid who got molested.” This breaks my heart to hear, but he’s not wrong about his story not being unique: The generally accepted estimate is that one in six men are sexually abused as children.

Trav believes his story is too familiar to be interesting.

This one act for some—repeated acts of violence for others—does untold amounts of damage to one’s psyche.

Yet the resilience I’ve witnessed from many who choose to live their lives after the violence is remarkable.

A child who has been sexually assaulted blurs that idea of love, nurturing, trust, attention, and affection, and begins to believe that the only way to receive love, attention, etc., is to please the “assaulter.” This remains in effect as the child matures into adulthood.