More or less, dating can obviously be tough enough for a man, but dating a single mum takes a special kind of man.
Granted it may not always be mandatory that you fill the role of the absentee father, but with some single mums, it can actually be a requirement or expectation if you plan to be with her long-term. Not Yours One of the major obstacles that I’ve faced being a single mum and dating is that many guys don’t understand how much time it takes to be a parent.
Now obviously, this isn’t a discussion that comes after the first 2 or 3 dates, however it’s definitely something that should be a topic of conversation at some point in time; determining the (future) expectations, as far as the child(ren) are concerned. Now women may be lucky enough to come across a guy with a child(ren) of his own who understands this, but more often than not, many men without kids don’t understand that raising a child actually takes time.
Let me just say that as a woman, dating without kids was a headache, as I can imagine is the same for men, but dating with a child has proven to be even more difficult and I can provide several reasons why.
And let me just be clear, that these are based on MY experiences and obviously not reflective of EVERY single mum out there. The Sitter Struggle Being a single parent sometimes means having to schedule a night out several weeks in advance and hope that your sitter remembers that they agreed to watch your child when the time actually comes.
Through my circle of friends and single moms I meet through this blog, I often hear cries of horror about the thought of single mom dating. What man in his right mind would date someone with so much baggage? Whether the single part was by way of divorce, breakup, death or choice, it was a big deal, and that changed you. I have lunches to make and doctor appointments to schedule. Busy single moms have fewer lonely nights to fill, fewer dinners eaten alone.