So now, I finally have closure with their relationship — that unsettling feeling of him hiding something from me is no longer there — however, what’s replaced it are these huge knots on my chest that I can’t seem to get rid of.
I keep thinking of the fact that the both of them had a baby together and that the baby’s brain didn’t fully develop — as though the baby was never alive — it just had a heart beat and reflexes but no feelings or thoughts.
Him and his gf have both been able to move on from the experience — they went through 9 months in college without no one knowing that she was even pregnant. I need advice because I feel really sad right now — suddenly, all the sunshine and happiness in my life just seemed to vanish — all of my excitement and everything and I don’t know why.
I told my boyfriend that I was proud of his courage to tell me because he said it killed him inside everyday that he couldn’t tell me since he was afraid of losing me.
They made some poor decisions when they were very young and suffered a tragedy together. But as with all important griefs, when it is put in front of him, some of the intense feelings still come over him. If you do make a future with him and decide to have children, your pregnancy will not be his first. He will probably be extra concerned about you during your pregnancy and extra worried about whether your baby is okay.